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Tips: Things to Do To Start Changing Your Life.

A big change in your life starts with a series of small decisions to do things different and finding the support and counsel to make it happen. What do you really want to accomplish? These steps will help you get there.

  1. Make a list of all the ways you want your life to be—a grocery list of things you want for yourself. You don't have to know how to achieve your goals right off the bat. Take two minutes to write down any thing or object you want, no matter how extravagant or ridiculous. Don't think too hard. Just keep writing.
  2. Now choose one of those desires and create an achievable and measurable goal that you can strive for. If you want to get a big promotion at work, think of one step you can take that would make you a great candidate for the position.
  3. Envision who you could become by reaching that goal and how it would change your life. Finish this sentence: If I reach this goal, I would be the type of person who
  4. Interview someone who demonstrates the abilities you want or is in a position that you desire to learn the next steps you need to take to reach your goal. Create a plan with them, much like a personal trainer may create a workout regiment. List the names of two people you could talk to in the next week to get you started on your goals.

    To make it more likely that you interview them, declare a date by which you will interview them. Write it down for each person.
  5. Name three things that you can do right now to get started on your goals. It could be starting on a workout plan, taking on a project you never thought you would take on, or signing up for a singles web site to improve your dating success.

Extra credit: Stay inspired by reading a biography of a famous person who accomplished something or has qualities you would like to emulate. List two people whose biographies you could read soon, and what you hope to learn from them.

Kick Back Or Kick It Up a Notch

You deserve a break today! Don't you? There is nothing wrong with taking a well-deserved break, but sometimes what I need to do to feel better is to dig in, not escape. Running to the spa when I've been procrastinating on a project never makes me feel better—it just makes me feel guilty.

Procrastination is the most common soft addiction. And we use our other soft addictions to procrastinate—we turn on the TV, surf the internet, grab a snack, play solitaire, text-message our buddies...But the reality is that soft addictions are not real self-care. With a soft addiction I momentarily distract or numb myself with a surface craving but miss the opportunity to really take care of myself by meeting my deeper needs and hungers—like the hunger to be connected, loved, comforted, or to make a difference, to matter, to be fulfilled, or to be respected.

Real self-care sometimes means understanding all the activities you could do to take care of yourself and then picking the one that's the right fit at that time. And surprisingly sometimes hard work itself can be my best source of nourishment. There are times when I stay up a little later to get completely organized for the next day, and I have a much better night's sleep than if I had collapsed into bed after a long workday thinking, "I'll handle the rest in the morning."

Don't get me wrong, I'm not against taking great breaks. In fact, it's one of the things I often have to coach and train people to do in order to be more productive. But by expanding my definition of self-care, I don't need to wait for a certain type of break—a massage or an escape—to recharge my batteries. I can even use challenges to provide more nourishment and energy for my days.

May your days be filled with satisfying work and nourishing rest, and I hope that by taking good care of yourself, you'll be able to accomplish more than you ever thought possible.

Attend my Soft Addiction Solution Training August 28-30 for only $299 and learn the secrets of true self-care!



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DR. JUDITH WRIGHT is hailed as a peerless educator, world-class coach, lifestyles expert, inspirational speaker, best-selling author, and corporate consultant. In her book, The Soft Addiction Solution, she examines how Soft Addictions often get in the way of a more fulfilling life. In her new book, The One Decision, she shows readers what a fulfilling life of MORE really is, and how making the One Decision changes what we do, how we think, and what we feel. Judith’s latest venture is as president of The Wright Graduate Institute, which she cofounded with her husband Dr. Bob Wright.

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This article was published on 2011/05/12